After being inspired by the book “The Art Of Nonconformity” by Chris Guillebeau, I decided to venture out and go to a nice restaurant by myself.
I’ll admit, it wasn’t easy skipping out on the rest of the guy to go to a restaurant by myself, taking only a book to read. But I thought it would build character. After driving around for over 20 minutes, I finally decided to stop at a restaurant called “Ginger House” restaurant. Luckily, the restaurant only have 3 tables of people at them. I was lucky because the place looked very nice:
I was a very pleasant experience with a very great waitress. I ordered “Pad Thai” and a coke, and it was a great meal.
Now you might be wondering why I decided to go out by myself, instead of taking along with the rest of the folks I’m working with in CA. Well, I wanted to go something entirely by myself while I was out there, so it was a personal challenge, or training for the future. I figure if I every do travel some day, it would be good to develop the comfort levels to be able to go out to a restaurant by myself.
While I was there, I forced myself to read 3 pages of the book I’m currently reading (yeah, I’m starting out small).
Surprisingly, it was hard for me to focus, but I mucked through it anyway.
While this exercise wasn’t earth shattering, it was still a good experiment and comfort level builder.
Best,
MR
Interesting that you would actually conduct an experiment like this. I occasionally find myself dining alone and usually have a magazine with me. I can get quite a bit read during that time. I am surprised you only got three pages read, but I guess if you were not focused I can understand.
Actually, I felt kind of bad reading taking up the waitresses table, so during the waiting periods, I read the few pages.
Even though I had dinner alone, I ended up meeting the work peers then we went out drinking at a bar. It turned out to be a partial success. I was looking forward to down time after dinner and reading a book that I brought out.
I love eating alone. If I need an escape, I head to a restaurant with a book and just relax.
I eat a lone, but it’s at lunch and in the car driving to the local library closest to work.
I like to people watch though, so I would like to go other places like the mall to eat, but at this point I just don’t have time. Now that it’s summer though, I might revisit that idea since the mall may have wireless access.
I am curious, what did you learn? In my former life, I traveled a lot and occasionally had to eat alone. Personally, I did not enjoy it. If I wanted a quiet moment, I would buy food to take out and go to a nice location like the beach or my hotel room balcony.
Part of my experiment was to learn how to handle traveling more often. I think I like your idea better, or perhaps I’ll buy some food, stock my fridge and prepare my own food next time.
I eat alone at fast food, but at a sit down restaurant that’s classy, it was an unusual experience saying “Table for 1”. I looked around and noticed I was the only table where just one person was eating alone.
So my goal was to become comfortable enough to get such a table and to be able to read a few pages from a book with the same level of focus that I would reading in my reading chair at home.
I did okay, but I kept it short.
MR- I’ve had to do that a few times when I used to travel alot….it’s quite an awkward feeling, but a little alcohol goes a long way.
Have you ever tried going to see a movie by yourself while on the road? Now that’s a weird feeling too!
I went to see a movie one by myself during my college years (during mantinee times). It was very awkward, and I haven’t done that since. But I know exactly what you are talking about.
If I have to travel more and more, I would need to overcome this low hurdles, and with degree of comfort.
I can safely say that I have not eat alone more than 3 or 4 times in a restaurant. I feel awkward as hell.
That is on my soon to read list I have a copy at home
The book is a easy read, but very interesting! Surprisingly, I agree with a good portion that they author states, not 100%, but at least 75%.
After reading Krantcent’s comments, I think I would order it to take home or prepare the food myself. I need to brush up on my cooking skills anyway.
Eating lunch alone is no big deal. Dinner is a different story. I would get a take out like Evan. 😉
Dinner was very awkward, but I survived it, and I think I could do it again if I needed too.
I was luck in that it was during a weekday, so it wasn’t too crowded in the restaurant. If it was a weekend day, I think I would have ordered pickup.
You mean a big spotlight didn’t shine down on you when you told the waitress table for 1, like in the jerk?
I eat alone all the time as I travel a lot. It’s no biggie.
I would someday like to get to the same level that you are at. I think in someways that can be a skill in and of itself. It’s very empowering to go where others are uncomfortable, and with confidence.
Interesting experiment… LOL at Sandy’s comment. I can imagine a spotlight shining down,but maybe it does build character. Kudos to you for being willing to swim against the tide a bit.
Thanks, Sandy’s reference to the movie “The Jerk” makes me want to watch that movie again 🙂